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More than two decades after one of the most quoted breakup stories in Hollywood memoir history, Jerry O’Connell is finally setting the record straight, and he is not even trying to make himself look good in the process.
During a July 20 appearance on “Let’s Talk Off Camera with Kelly Ripa,” recorded live in front of an audience at SiriusXM’s NYC Fishbowl, the 52-year-old actor sat down with Ripa and, when the subject of his early 2000s relationship with Giuliana Rancic came up, he did something refreshingly rare for a celebrity looking back on an old flame. He simply admitted he had been bad at it.
“I gotta say, we had a lot of fun together,” O’Connell told Ripa before getting to the harder part. “But we did break up on… We broke up poorly.” From there, he did not dance around the subject or offer a carefully lawyered non-answer.
He went straight into an apology aimed directly at his ex. “Let me take this moment to apologize to Giuliana Rancic. I’m not kidding about being a terrible boyfriend. I was just not a great boyfriend,” he said, later adding for emphasis, “I was a pretty terrible boyfriend.”
The reason this particular admission matters so much is that it directly confirms one of the more memorable stories to ever come out of a celebrity memoir.
Back in 2015, Rancic published “Going Off Script,” in which she detailed the end of her relationship with O’Connell in vivid and, by most accounts, pretty hilarious detail.
According to the book, O’Connell ended things with her not over dinner, not over the phone, but through the intercom system at his own condominium, after she showed up at his building without warning him first.
The Intercom Breakup That Became Hollywood Lore
Kelly Ripa did not let O’Connell off easy on the podcast, reading back one of the most infamous lines from Rancic’s memoir to see if he would deny it.
According to “Going Off Script,” O’Connell allegedly told Rancic through the intercom, “Nope. Sorry, home girl. Things change, but you take care, okay?” It is the kind of line that sounds almost too perfectly dismissive to be real, and O’Connell himself seemed to agree. “It doesn’t sound like something I would say,” he said with a laugh, “but I can’t deny that I said that.”
Rather than dispute the broader story, O’Connell filled in the context around it. He explained that Rancic had shown up at his condo unannounced and asked to come upstairs, and that he was simply not prepared for a surprise visit. “I did not know you were coming,” he recalled telling her at the time. “You can’t come here unannounced.”
He went on to note that no one had a key to his place at that point in the relationship, since things had not progressed to that level of seriousness yet, and that he has always placed a high value on his own privacy.
“Thank goodness there was a buzzer, gate, security,” he joked on the podcast, adding that he had paid “a pretty hefty homeowners fee for these things.”
O’Connell also acknowledged that someone else was inside his condo at the time Rancic buzzed the intercom, which lines up with the account in Rancic’s memoir that she believed he had been unfaithful during their relationship.
Rancic reportedly wrote that she suspected O’Connell of an affair with Spice Girls member Geri Halliwell, though O’Connell did not confirm the identity of who was actually in his condo that night.
When Ripa floated the idea that it could have been Halliwell or his now-wife, Rebecca Romijn, O’Connell declined to clarify either way, keeping at least one detail of the story a mystery all these years later.
O’Connell Praised Rancic’s Memoir Even Though She Never Gave Him a Heads Up
One of the more surprising parts of O’Connell’s interview was just how gracious he was about being written about in the first place.
He revealed that Rancic never reached out to him before “Going Off Script” was published, meaning he found out about her version of their breakup the same way everyone else did, by reading it. Rather than express any frustration about that, O’Connell instead complimented her writing.
“It doesn’t sound like something I would say,” he said of the infamous quote, “but again, if I was writing a memoir, it made for a good quote.” He went on to specifically applaud Rancic for “using colorful dialogue and everything” in her retelling of their split.
That kind of good humor extended through the rest of the conversation as well. O’Connell did not try to reframe himself as misunderstood or paint Rancic’s account as exaggerated.
Instead, he leaned into the absurdity of the story right alongside Ripa and the live audience, treating the whole episode as one of those chapters of his younger life that is better laughed about now than defended.
“I’ve never spoken about this story,” he noted before diving into it, suggesting this may be the most detail he has ever publicly offered about what actually happened between him and Rancic back in 2004.
According to earlier reporting on the relationship, O’Connell and Rancic first met at a hotel in San Diego in 2003 and dated for roughly a year before splitting for good.
Their relationship reportedly had its ups and downs even before the intercom incident, including an earlier rocky patch tied to the same infidelity concerns involving Halliwell, which O’Connell had reportedly owned up to and been forgiven for at the time.
By the time the breakup at the intercom happened, O’Connell has suggested the relationship was already unraveling well before that final unannounced visit.
Both Stars Have Long Since Moved On With Their Own Families
Whatever chaos defined their early 2000s romance, both O’Connell and Rancic have built full lives well beyond it in the years since. O’Connell went on to marry actress Rebecca Romijn, and the couple recently celebrated 19 years of marriage together.
They share 17-year-old twin daughters, Charlie and Dolly, and O’Connell has been openly affectionate about his marriage in interviews over the years, a sharp contrast to the picture Rancic painted of him as a boyfriend two decades ago.
Rancic, for her part, married entrepreneur Bill Rancic in 2007, and the couple share a 13-year-old son named Duke.
She has built a long and successful career in entertainment journalism, including years as a co-anchor on E! News, and “Going Off Script” remains one of the more talked about celebrity memoirs of its era precisely because of moments like the intercom breakup that O’Connell has now confirmed in his own words.
What makes this particular story stick around after more than twenty years is not really the breakup itself. Plenty of celebrity relationships end badly and get forgotten within a news cycle.
It is the almost cartoonishly cold delivery of the breakup line that turned it into something people still bring up more than a decade after Rancic first wrote about it.
By finally addressing it head on, with humor and without a hint of defensiveness, O’Connell has essentially closed the loop on one of Hollywood’s most enduring “worst breakup” stories, and done it in a way that makes him look far better now than the story itself ever did back in 2004.
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