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Dating used to start the moment two people actually sat down together. According to new national survey data, for half of today’s singles, it now starts well before that, with a quiet scroll through someone’s social media before the first hello.
The Survey Behind the Number
The finding comes from the 15th edition of the annual Singles in America study, conducted by the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University in partnership with Match. Released September 14, 2026, the survey asked 5,000 single American adults 120 questions about dating, relationships, finances, and technology. It’s one of the longest-running, most comprehensive studies of single adults in the country.
According to the survey findings, 50% of singles said they screen or look up a date online before meeting them in person. Of that group, 60% used social media to gather information, 37% turned to Google, and 29% went so far as to run an actual background check.
This Habit Didn’t Appear Overnight
Pre-date research isn’t new, but it has clearly picked up momentum. A 2021 YouGov survey found that 44% of dating app users had already searched for a match’s social media profile before meeting, 40% had searched their name online, and nearly seven in ten had used at least one method to look someone up beforehand.
What’s changed is how normalized and multi-layered research has become. Rather than a single social media search, today’s daters are increasingly combining several methods at once, treating a Google search and a background check as reasonable steps before agreeing to meet a stranger in person.
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Safety Appears to Be a Real Driver
This isn’t simply curiosity. According to reporting that connects this trend to broader dating app safety concerns, a Pew Research Center survey found that 56% of women under 50 who had used dating apps reported receiving unwanted sexually explicit messages or images, and 11% said they had been threatened with physical harm through a dating app. These experiences were notably less common among daters 50 and older.
Given that context, treating a background check or a social media search as a basic precaution rather than an overreaction makes a lot more sense, particularly for younger daters most likely to meet people they’ve only interacted with online.
What They’re Actually Trying to Learn
The point of all this searching isn’t necessarily digging up secrets. According to the same body of research on pre-date screening, most people use these tools to get a general sense of who they’re meeting, confirming that someone is who they say they are, checking for shared interests, and watching for anything that doesn’t add up compared to what a match has already shared. It functions less like a hiring background check and more like a basic confidence check before investing an evening with a stranger.
What Gen Z Wants Once They Actually Meet
Interestingly, the same Singles in America survey suggests this research phase isn’t about being overly guarded once the date actually starts. According to the survey’s findings, the traits singles say they’re looking for in a partner center heavily on emotional safety and communication: 53% said mutual respect matters most, 52% pointed to open communication, 40% wanted to feel safe and secure with a partner, and 39% said trust and being able to confide in someone were essential. Emotional maturity came in at 28%.
Those same priorities help explain why pre-date research and post-date optimism aren’t actually in conflict. Vetting someone beforehand and still hoping for a genuine connection are two parts of the same modern approach to dating.
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Gen Z Is Also More Open About What They Want
The survey also found a broader shift toward directness. In 2021, only 25% of singles said they were comfortable sharing their relationship “checklist” with a potential partner. By 2026, that number had grown to 34%. Interest in marriage has also climbed, rising from 33% in 2010 to 45% in 2026, while the share of singles who said they didn’t want a relationship at all dropped from 32% in 2021 to 24% in 2026.
Even the first date of disappointment doesn’t carry the weight it used to. According to the survey, 41% of adults said they’d be willing to go on a second date even after a boring first one, up from 35% in 2021, suggesting singles are giving people more room to grow on them rather than writing someone off after one so-so evening.
What the Researchers Make of It
Dr. Justin Garcia, executive director of the Kinsey Institute and co-lead of the study, said the data shows people going into dating with real clarity, without losing room for surprise. “Singles today have clear expectations for a partner, but love still has the ability to surprise them,” Garcia said. “Nearly half have fallen for someone they weren’t initially attracted to, and conversation, shared interests, and values can change how they see someone. Knowing what matters to you doesn’t mean knowing exactly who you’ll fall for.”
Dr. Amanda Gesselman, a senior research scientist at the Kinsey Institute and the study’s other co-lead, framed the overall shift in similarly optimistic terms. “Singles are placing more value on what kind of person they want their partner to be and are open to a more individualized future once they find that person,” Gesselman said. “Across ages, genders, and sexual orientations, nearly everyone is looking for a long-term partner they can trust, laugh with, and experience strong chemistry with.”
The Bottom Line
Researching a date beforehand isn’t replacing genuine connection; it’s becoming the entry fee for it. For a generation navigating dating largely through apps and strangers met online, a quick search isn’t paranoia. According to the data, it’s become step one, clearing the way for what singles have always wanted once they sit down across from someone: trust, respect, and the chance to be surprised.
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