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Some relationship problems can be repaired with honesty, accountability, and effort. Others can fundamentally change how a person feels about trust, safety, and respect. These behaviors are not a universal list of things every couple must end over, but they are actions many people find extremely difficult to forgive—especially when they involve repeated harm, manipulation, or a refusal to take responsibility.
Physical violence or threats of violence
Physical violence is not simply a “bad argument” or a relationship rough patch. The CDC defines intimate partner violence as including physical violence, sexual violence, stalking, and psychological aggression by a current or former partner.
Research and public health guidance emphasize that fear and control are central concerns in these situations. The focus is not on improving communication between partners; it is on safety and support.
The takeaway: disagreements can be worked through; violence and threats change a relationship’s foundation.
Sexual coercion or any nonconsensual sexual contact
A healthy relationship requires freely given consent. The National Domestic Violence Hotline describes sexual abuse as including attempts to control physical or sexual intimacy through force, pressure, or nonconsensual behavior.
Consent is not permanent because two people are married, have dated for years, or have previously agreed to intimacy.
The takeaway: love and commitment do not remove a person’s right to make decisions about their own body.
Cheating followed by blame-shifting
Infidelity can seriously damage trust, but many relationship researchers distinguish between the betrayal itself and what happens afterward. A 2024 study examining couples seeking help after infidelity found that Gottman Method Couples Therapy showed stronger outcomes than treatment-as-usual approaches in areas including trust, conflict management, relationship satisfaction, and sexual quality. However, the study does not mean every couple should stay together after an affair.
The extra damage often comes when the person who cheated denies what happened, minimizes it, or blames the betrayed partner.
The takeaway: some couples rebuild after betrayal, while others decide the damage is too great. Both responses are personal choices.
Related: Married Women Are Cheating Too: 9 Troubling Reasons Behind The Shift
Repeated lying about major life issues
Trust is not built by never making mistakes—it is built through honesty and accountability after mistakes happen. Repeated deception about major issues such as money, children, addiction, or infidelity can make a partner question whether they truly understand the relationship they are in.
The takeaway: one uncomfortable lie is different from a repeated pattern that changes the reality of the relationship.
Gaslighting
Gaslighting is often used casually to describe any disagreement, but researchers and public health definitions describe something more specific: attempts to make a person doubt their own memory, perception, or understanding of events.
The takeaway: healthy couples can remember situations differently. The problem begins when one person repeatedly tries to undermine the other person’s confidence in their own experience.
Related: 12 Signs Your “Nice” Boyfriend Is Gaslighting You
Humiliation, insults, and constant belittling
Everyone can say something hurtful during an emotional moment, but repeated humiliation is a different pattern. The CDC describes psychological aggression as communication intended to harm or control a partner, including behaviors such as insulting, name-calling, and humiliation.
The takeaway: a relationship cannot thrive when one person is regularly made to feel smaller.
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