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For a growing number of single Americans, that cycle no longer feels like romance. It feels like a shift they never signed up for.
New survey data confirms what many daters have been saying for months: dating right now comes with long hours, real costs, and almost no guaranteed payoff. Experts are even comparing it to a second job.
Here’s what the numbers show, and what the people studying this trend are saying.
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Dating App Burnout Is Hitting an All-Time High
Dating apps were supposed to make finding a partner easier. For most users, they’re doing the opposite.
A 2026 survey from Forbes Health and OnePoll found that 78% of dating app users feel emotionally, mentally, or physically exhausted by the apps at least sometimes.
Among Gen Z specifically, that number climbs to 79%.
Users spend an average of nearly 51 minutes a day swiping, according to the same survey. Women reported slightly more screen time than men.
Sabrina Romanoff, a clinical psychologist and Forbes Health Advisory Board member, says the pattern has a name.
“Dating apps can very easily feel like a second job if you’re not careful about setting time and emotional boundaries around using them,” Romanoff said.
Her advice for anyone stuck in the swipe loop: “If you’re swiping out of habit or obligation, it’s time to pause.”
What’s actually causing the burnout, according to survey respondents:
- Inability to find a real connection — 40%
- Disappointment in matches — 35%
- Straight-up rejection — 27%
- Repetitive, copy-paste conversations — 24%
- Managing multiple app profiles — 18%
Judy Ho, a clinical and forensic neuropsychologist and fellow Forbes Health Advisory Board member, says the emotional guesswork is part of the problem.
“You don’t know how much you should invest emotionally,” Ho said. “And then sometimes when you do, you get burned, so it makes you more cynical for the next interaction.”
Ghosting is making things worse. The survey found 41% of users say they’ve experienced it firsthand.
Rufus Tony Spann, a certified sex therapist and Forbes Health Advisory Board member, explained why it stings so much.
“Many say that people on the apps swipe and don’t talk, reach out just for sex, or begin the conversation, then ghost if they find something wrong with the conversation or person,” Spann said.
Add in the 38% of users who reported being catfished, and the exhaustion is easy to understand.
Even neuropsychologist Raphael Wald, also on the Forbes Health Advisory Board, compares overuse to workplace burnout.
“Anytime something takes over your life, it can cause burnout or fatigue,” Wald said.
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The Cost of Dating Keeps Climbing Too
Burnout isn’t the only problem. Dating is also getting expensive fast.
According toBMO’s 2026 Real Financial Progress Index, the average all-in cost of a single date in America has hit $189, up more than 12% from last year.
That figure includes transportation, getting ready, and the date itself.
Break it down by generation, and the numbers get sharper:
- Gen Z: $205 per date
- Millennials: $252 per date
Half of single Americans told BMO they’re going on fewer dates or picking cheaper activities because of rising costs.
Roughly half of Gen Z and 40% of millennials say dating expenses are getting in the way of their financial goals.
Paul Dilda, BMO’s Head of U.S. Consumer Strategy, says the trend is squeezing singles from every direction.
“With spending on dating outpacing inflation, singles can feel priced out of love,” Dilda said. “Whether it’s a long-term relationship or a first date, it has never been more challenging to ensure the path to love is also the path to real financial progress.”
Romanoff, who also spoke with CNBC about the shift, tied the rising costs directly to lower dating frequency.
“We’re seeing that there is this increased cost of living, and it’s lowering our dating frequency and how we’re seeing or perceiving dating,” she said. “We’re seeing people have fewer dinners out and there’s a lower tolerance for higher-risk meetups.”
Every date now comes with a built-in cost-benefit analysis. For many people, the math just isn’t working out.
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Young Adults Still Want Love; They’re Just Losing Confidence
Here’s the twist. Despite all the burnout and budget stress, young adults haven’t given up on relationships.
A major 2026 study from the Institute for Family Studies and the Wheatley Institute at Brigham Young University surveyed 5,275 unmarried adults ages 22 to 35.
The result: 86% expect to get married someday.
Most also said they want a dating culture built on real emotional connection, not casual hookups.
But confidence is a different story. Only about 31% of young adults reported actively dating, meaning once a month or more.
Only about a third of young men and roughly a fifth of young women said they felt confident approaching someone they were interested in.
Fewer than 4 in 10 said they trusted their own judgment when choosing a partner.
Brian Willoughby, one of the report’s authors and a Fellow at the Wheatley Institute, says there’s a clear gap between desire and readiness.
“What the 2026 State of Our Unions report tells us is that most young adults across America endorse relatively traditional purposes for dating and do not express an overt fear of commitment, but many lack the needed skills for dating and the resilience to handle the natural ups and downs of relationship starts and stops along the journey of dating,” Willoughby said.
That lack of resilience shows up in the data too. Only 28% of respondents said they could stay positive after a bad date or setback.
More than half said past breakups made them more hesitant to start dating again.
The bottom line: young adults want the relationship. They don’t want the process of getting there.
Until dating gets less exhausting and less expensive, don’t expect the burnout headlines to slow down anytime soon.
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