5 Brutal Reasons I Regret Not Marrying for Money at 60
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As I approach my 60s, I find myself reflecting on the choices I made when it came to love, marriage, and money. Like many others, I once believed that love should be the driving force behind a relationship, and that financial security would come later, or that it didn’t matter as much. Now, looking back, I wish I had been more pragmatic. While love is important, there are harsh realities that cannot be ignored when you don’t have financial stability.
Here are five brutal reasons why I regret not marrying for money at 60.
The Lack Of Financial Security Has Been Exhausting
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Over the years, I’ve spent countless hours worrying about bills, retirement, and the future. While my peers married into financial security, I was left to navigate the complexities of budgeting and managing my finances alone. The weight of financial strain has worn me down, It’s a burden that seems impossible to shake as I approach retirement age with limited savings.
The stress of constant budgeting and living paycheck to paycheck has taken a toll on my mental health. Financial stability would have allowed me to focus on other areas of life instead of spending so much energy on day-to-day survival. The exhaustion of it all is something that no amount of love can offset.
The Inability To Enjoy A Comfortable Retirement
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As I near the age of retirement, the reality is stark—I simply don’t have enough saved up to live comfortably. Many of my friends, who married for financial security, are planning vacations, enjoying the fruits of their investments, and looking forward to a stress-free retirement. Meanwhile, I find myself facing the unsettling prospect of having to work well into my 70s, just to maintain a basic lifestyle.
According to a study by the Employee Benefit Research Institute, nearly 40% of Americans over 60 have less than $100,000 saved for retirement, and many have no retirement savings at all. It’s a scary statistic that has become all too real for me. If I had made different choices in my younger years, perhaps I could have built a nest egg that would allow me to enjoy my golden years without the constant pressure of financial strain.
Stressing Over Emergency Expenses
Another brutal reality of not having a financially secure partner is the constant fear of unexpected costs. Whether it’s a sudden medical emergency, a car repair, or a home appliance failure, these expenses have a way of throwing a wrench into an already tight budget. While some of my friends can dip into savings or rely on their spouse’s financial cushion, I’ve had to scramble for funds or take on additional work just to cover basic costs.
Research from the Federal Reserve shows that 40% of Americans would struggle to come up with $400 in the event of an emergency. This statistic feels far too familiar to me, as I find myself constantly worried about what might come up next. Marrying for money could have shielded me from this anxiety, providing a financial safety net that would have made life’s unexpected expenses far less stressful.
Watching Others Live Luxuriously
One of the hardest things to swallow is seeing others, who married for financial security, living a life of luxury. From regular vacations to fine dining, their financial situation has allowed them to enjoy the finer things in life without much worry. Meanwhile, I’ve been caught up in a constant cycle of scrimping and saving just to get by. It’s not just about materialism; it’s about the opportunities that come with financial freedom. I’ve watched my peers invest in their health, travel, and pursue their passions, while I’ve been stuck in a cycle of survival.
The reality is that money can buy freedom—the freedom to choose how you live, the freedom to say yes to opportunities, and the freedom to live without constant financial fear. A study by the American Psychological Association, people say money is a major source of stress, and for many of us, that stress has a direct impact on our overall happiness and well-being. If I had made a different choice in marriage, perhaps I could have lived a life without this constant weight on my shoulders.
Feeling Inadequate and Left Behind
Perhaps the most brutal of all is the sense of inadequacy that comes with not marrying for money. Watching others thrive financially while I struggle has created a feeling of being left behind. In my 60s, I am left to confront the reality that my financial situation doesn’t reflect my hard work or ambition. It’s a painful reminder that sometimes, the right partner can make all the difference, not just emotionally, but also financially.
Studies show that women, particularly, face greater financial struggles as they age. According to the National Institute on Retirement Security, women over 65 are 80% more likely to live in poverty than men. This stark reality underscores the importance of financial stability in a partnership. It’s something I wish I had prioritized, but it’s too late now to change the course I set for myself.
Conclusion
Looking back, the absence of financial stability has left me grappling with regrets I can’t undo. While love is important, it’s the hard reality of not marrying for financial security that has shaped my 60s. From struggling to make ends meet to missing out on opportunities for a comfortable retirement, the consequences are undeniable. The truth is, financial security brings peace of mind, and I now understand the profound difference it can make in shaping a fulfilling and stress-free life.
Patience is a writer whose work is guided by clarity, empathy, and practical insight. With a background in Environmental Science and meaningful experience supporting mental-health communities, she brings a thoughtful, well-rounded perspective to her writing—whether developing informative articles, compelling narratives, or actionable guides.
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