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Justine Musk has spent more than two decades mostly keeping the details of her marriage to Elon Musk to herself. That changed this week.
In a sprawling new documentary that just premiered at the Venice Film Festival, the tech billionaire’s first wife opens up in unusually raw terms about what life inside their relationship actually looked like, and the picture she paints is far from the fairytale origin story often told about Silicon Valley’s most famous power couple.
The film, titled simply Musk, comes from acclaimed writer-director Alex Gibney, the Emmy- and Oscar-nominated filmmaker behind Enron: The Smartest Guys in the Room and The Inventor: Out for Blood in Silicon Valley.
The nearly four-hour documentary debuted Tuesday, September 8, and hits theaters on October 16. Among its most talked-about moments is an extended, deeply personal interview with Justine Musk, who married Elon in 2000 and had six children with him before their 2008 divorce.
Justine has rarely discussed the marriage in detail publicly, touching on it only in a 2010 Marie Claire essay and a 2017 TED Talk.
Her appearance in Gibney’s film marks the most candid she has been in years, and it includes a word she says she didn’t fully understand until she lived through it herself.
“I Learned The Term Gaslighting”
The most striking line from Justine’s interview centers on a single word that has since become common shorthand for psychological manipulation.
“I learned the term ‘gaslighting’ through my relationship with Elon,” she says in the documentary, describing how her ex-husband made her feel small and unimportant throughout their years together. According to Justine, Elon frequently spoke to her the way he might address a subordinate rather than a spouse.
“He was constantly remarking on the ways he found me lacking,” Justine says in the film, painting a picture of a relationship defined by persistent criticism rather than partnership.
That dynamic, she suggests, was on display from the very beginning. Justine recalls that during their first dance as newlyweds in 2000, Elon told her plainly, “I am the alpha in this relationship.” It’s a line that, in hindsight, she frames as an early signal of the power imbalance that would come to define their marriage.
She also remembers a smaller, almost offhand moment that stuck with her: Elon telling her he could never dress fashionably because, in his words, he needed to “look like an engineer” rather than someone trying to look “cool or hip.”
Taken together, the anecdotes build toward a portrait of a man who, according to Justine, needed control over how he was perceived at every level, down to his own wardrobe.
Justine Disputes Elon’s Account Of Their Son Nevada’s Death
Perhaps the most emotionally charged section of Justine’s interview involves the couple’s first child together, a son named Nevada, who died of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) at just 10 weeks old in 2002.
The loss remains one of the most painful chapters of Justine’s life, and in the documentary she directly contradicts a claim Elon made years later on social media.
According to the film, Elon posted online that he had been the one holding Nevada at the moment the infant died. Justine disputes that account entirely, saying she was actually the one holding their son.
It’s a small but significant discrepancy, one that speaks to a broader theme running through Justine’s testimony in the documentary: her sense that Elon has, at times, rewritten shared history in ways that don’t match her own memory.
Following Nevada’s death, Justine and Elon went on to have five more children together, including twins Vivian and Griffin in 2004, before their marriage ultimately ended in divorce in 2008.
Vivian, Ashley St. Clair, and the Voices Surrounding the Film
The documentary also delves into Elon’s relationship with his daughter Vivian, who is transgender. Elon has previously said publicly that he lost his daughter to what he called the “woke mind virus.” In the film, Justine goes further, alleging that Elon cut off Vivian’s health insurance after she came out as trans and that he has made no real effort to reconcile with her since.
“He never tried to repair things,” Justine says of the fallout, adding, “It’s not in his nature.” Still, Justine says Elon told her to relay a message to Vivian: that he would “always love her.”
Justine isn’t the only woman from Elon’s life featured in Gibney’s film. Ashley St. Clair, who has a child with Elon, also appears and offers her own unsettling anecdotes about his approach to family and fatherhood.
St. Clair claims Elon once told her they should have a “legion of children before the civil war,” a comment she says came up while the two were falling asleep listening to a podcast about the Mongol emperor Kublai Khan.
She also alleges she was offered a nondisclosure agreement worth roughly 40 million dollars, structured as a 15 million dollar lump sum followed by monthly payments over 21 years, in exchange for staying silent about their relationship.
According to St. Clair, she turned down the offer. Justine, for her part, describes Elon as having an almost obsessive drive to have children, going so far as to say in the film, “The breeders are interchangeable.”
The documentary rounds out its perspective with interviews from Elon’s father, Errol Musk, and Tesla co-founder Martin Eberhard, giving viewers a range of vantage points on the billionaire’s personal and professional life.
Notably, Elon himself did not participate in the making of the film. He has already dismissed it publicly, calling it a “hit piece” in a post on X. Gibney responded to that characterization directly online, writing, “How would you know?” a pointed jab given that Elon sat out the production entirely.
PEOPLE reached out to Musk for comment on the documentary’s claims but had not received a response as of publication.
Despite the unflattering portrait painted by parts of the film, there’s little indication of lingering hostility between Elon and Justine specifically.
In a January post on X, Elon referred to his first wife as “an amazing woman,” a comment that stands in contrast to some of the more pointed allegations she makes in Gibney’s documentary.
A teaser trailer for Musk released ahead of its Venice premiere leaned into the film’s dual, almost contradictory framing of its subject, describing him at different points as “possibly the greatest living inventor” and “a man who has lost his mind.”
Whether that tension between genius and turmoil plays out convincingly across the full four-hour runtime remains to be seen once the documentary reaches wider audiences.
For now, Justine Musk’s decision to speak candidly, after years of relative silence, is already generating significant conversation ahead of the film’s theatrical release.
Her account offers a rare, deeply personal window into a marriage that helped shape the early life of one of the world’s most scrutinized public figures, and it arrives as Elon Musk’s personal relationships are already under intense public scrutiny.
Audiences will get the chance to judge the fuller picture for themselves when Musk opens in theaters on October 16.
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